How to plan an amazing bachelorette party

how to plan an amazing bachelorette party

Ah, the bachelorette party. Arguably one of the most fun parts of being in a wedding party.  You know, aside from being in a wedding ;) But planning these parties is not always easy.  So far, I’ve been able to help 3 separate maid-of-honours plan a bachelorette for their brides.  2 out of 3 were huge successes, one was a complete fail.

Here are some things to keep in mind when planning your friend’s bachelorette party:


1. Do things the bride wants to do
It should be a no-brainer that the bachelorette party should be geared toward the bride, but that isn’t always the case.  It’s important to pick something that the bride would like doing, or a theme that the bride is actually interested in.  An example of when this didn’t work: I helped my friends sister plan her bachelorette party and we did the whole penis decor/bar party.  The catch, though, was that the bride doesn’t like drinking, and doesn’t like dancing, and was totally unimpressed with the penises we decorated her sisters house with.  We put a lot of time and effort into a party that was not at all what the bride would have wanted to do.  If I could do it again, I would plan a sleepover style party with pjs, popcorn and corny movies.. and the bride would have loved it.
Think about things that the bride would want to do, and plan to do those things!  It doesn’t have to be all about penises and bar hopping to be a bachelorette party, either.


2. Give the guests the heads up about what to expect
I’m a planner and I like to give people lots and lots of notice when I’m planning a party.  I think that when it’s something like a bachelorette party, it’s important to let guests know far in advance what they should expect.  Are you planning a lingerie shower?  Are you planning on going out of town?  People might need to book off work in order to attend, they might need to buy something specific that goes with the theme!  Letting everyone know what to expect is a great way to get all the guests in on the theme while


3. Plan some one-on-one time with the bride.
Before my bachelorette party really started, my maid-of-honour took me to get my nails done, and that was one of the most fun parts about the whole thing, really.  It was great to be able to spend some time with just my maid-of-honour before the festivities started, and it gave the party a great starting off point.  Planning something one-on-one with just the bride before the party starts was so much fun, and after all.. she picked you as her best bridesmaid for a reason! She would probably love that extra time together.


4. Don’t let the bride pay for ANYTHING
Again, this should go without saying… but there are some brides who will insist on helping out, or who will feel weird about having everything paid for her the whole night.  But the thing is that it is her night, and so she shouldn’t have to worry about bringing money.  One way to make it better financially on everyone is to get everyone to help out!  Most guests at a bachelorette party expect to be paying for the bride anyway, so splitting up her costs among the guests is a great way to ease the hit on the maid-of-honour’s wallet.

5. Keep a firm budget in mind
This goes with the last one. Start planning with an idea of how much you’d like to spend.  Can you afford a weekend, or a night? Can you stay in a hotel or take a trip?  Keep that budget in mind as you plan so you don’t go overboard.  It also helps if everyone knows that budget in advance so they can save for it if they would like to participate!  If you’re planning on taking your girl to Vegas, for example, not everyone can afford to do that on the drop of a hat.  Giving people advance warning about how much money they need for something will ensure that everyone can go.

What else do you do to plan an amazing bachelorette party?

xoxo,
Alysa

These pictures were from my own bachelorette party (which was super fun), you can see the photographers other photos here

new mama uniform

new mama style

sweater: JC Penney // tank: thrifted // sweats: Victoria’s Secret Pink // scarf: gift

So this is what life has looked like lately.  Between some weight gain issues (Autumn), some colds (both of us) and not wanting to get dressed (me), these sweatpants have been amazing. I’ve committed the cardinal fashion crime though and worn them out in public… but to be fair it was mostly just to the Doctors office and to the homes of my parents!  Now that it’s getting nicer out, I will be wearing “real” clothes again ;)

What cardinal fashion crimes have you committed lately in the name of coziness?

xoxo,
Alysa

Ninth time on Links a la Mode!

So excited to share that I was selected for Links a la Mode for my Sex and the City post!  If you missed it, check it out in the links below, and be sure to check out the other links included.  <3

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Real Style Essentials

What do you really need for good style? The answer could be, “More clothes.” But we know better. It’s about knowing what you wear. It’s about finding your self, not your clothing self, but your real self. It’s about taking care of yourself. It’s about feeling good in your own skin. This week’s roundup is about the real essentials you need to be stylish. Whether it be your skin, what’s under that skin, or what you’re wearing to cover it.

Links à la Mode: January 15th

SPONSOR: shop bop Tory Totes, Skarlett blue, Lotta Stensson, Del Mar, IKII, Loyd Ford, English Factory, Valia Gabriel, Hender Scheme, The Laundry Room & Minimale Animale

Want to be featured in Links à la Mode?

xoxo,
Alysa

Stay cute while breastfeeding

As many nursing mama’s will attest, it’s really difficult to figure out what to wear while nursing.  You can’t wear certain things because you don’t have … ahem… easy access.  The last thing you want is to keep a crying baby waiting while you try to undress yourself, or to end up half-undressed and hiding in the bathroom to nurse.  Either scenario isn’t cute, and I’m finding that a lot of the clothes available to nursing mothers isn’t cute either.  So what is a mama to do?

Here are three ideas to help a new mama stay cute while breastfeeding:

1. V-Neck

V-neck

 

V-Neck is probably one of the easiest breastfeeding styles you can go with.  If you’re not afraid of being a little busty, that is.  Chances are, you’re going to have some great cleavage going on, and v-neck might be a little more than you bargained for.  If you’re uncomfortable with that, a stretchy tank top under it will work well, too!

2. One Up, One Down

One up one down

 

This is my favourite way to dress right now, and it’s perfect for anyone who is a little more modest.  I wear a stretchy tank top, which is pulled down, and a flowy top, which is pulled up.  Then you’re showing the minimum amount of skin that is necessary for breastfeeding, and layering is super cute!  I love leggings, too, which is perfect for my postpartum body.

3. Strapless

Strapless

 

Strapless is one the easiest breastfeeding styles out there.  I have a number of cute strapless dresses that are now open for me to wear, that I couldn’t wear while pregnant, and I’m so glad that they work for breastfeeding!  And if you feel like you’re showing more skin than you’d like, throw on a little cardigan!  Super cute and helps with breastfeeding.

What do you wear while breastfeeding your babe?

xoxo,
Alysa

why to rewatch Sex & the City

I love Sex and the City. I love Carrie, I love Charlotte, I love Miranda and I love Samantha. Their stories, their clothes, their men, it’s so great.  Every few years I have a rewatch (MINUS the second movie, I like to pretend it doesn’t exist) and I recently rewatched it again.  It put it in a whole new perspective watching it with a child in my lap (am I a bad mom? ;) ) but I still really enjoyed it.

Here are 5 reasons why I think YOU should rewatch it, or watch it for the first time if you haven’t.


1. the Friendships
Something that struck me the most when re-watching this show, was the friendships between Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha.  They all support each other to the end, even when they don’t necessarily agree with the other persons choices.  For example, when Carrie cheats on Aidan with Big. Her friends clearly do not agree with her actions, but they support her when her and Aidan break up.  They have fights, at times, like most friends do, but when it comes down to it, they support each other and I love that part of the show.

2. the Fashion
You can’t have a post about Sex and the City without talking about the clothes.  There are lots of high fashion designer items that they wear, but there are also lots of vintage stuff.  They were one of the first shows that filmed the shoes first, and one of the first shows that changed the way they filmed it to include as many full body shots as possible.  While some of what they wore was a little bit over the top, you have to give them credit for pushing the envelope with their fashion choices.  Plus, I love the shoes!  It’d be nice to be able to afford those brands, but just looking at them on the show is almost as good, right? ;)


3. the Relationships
Big, Aidan, the Russian.  Steve. Richard and Smith. Trey and Harry.  So many relationships (and non-relationships) that were just great.  But I believe, hands down, that Harry was the best guy on the show.

Girls Only
4. the City
You can’t watch this show without wanting to be in New York City!  I was lucky enough to go there 5 or so years ago, and watching this show made me feel quite homesick for it, I loved it there so much.  Plus, I love the fact that they showed real restaurants and locations in the city.  Great for those of us who were only able to visit, we can re-visit through this amazing show. Gah, I want to go back so bad!

5. the Cameos
Sarah Jessica Parker, Bradley Cooper, Vince Vaughn, and so many others.  One of the things that I LOVE about watching older tv shows like this is being able to spot the extras/small parts that were played by actors who are now super famous.  There is a more complete list of famous cameos here, but it’s definitely worth watching just to see all the current celebrities before they were as famous as they are now.

Enjoy every moment! And really, don’t bother with the 2nd movie.. it’s crap ;)

xoxo,
Alysa

sources: 0/1/3, 2, 4

late night feeds

dress: eShakti.com // socks: Amerocan Apparel // necklace: thrifted

 

I was an idiot when I was younger. I can remember times in my early to mid-twenties where I would stay up really late, probably chatting on msn or watching all the episodes of a tv show or something. Sometimes it would be after I had been out, sometimes not, but I would get to about 4am or so and think “well, it’s already 4am… might as well stay up all night!” And then I would stay up all day, go to school or work and function like a normal human.

I look back on that girl now and it makes me very upset because sleep is SO precious!! I want to go back to that girl and get her to go to sleep.

Now, staying up late looks a little different.  I’m constantly on facebook instead of msn, and I’ve watched a lott of tv and movies in the lasr two months.  My staying up late isn’t after a night out, and I’m glad for that.  Plus, I get to watch a beautiful little girl grow.  It’s different but cuddling a baby is exactly what I want to do right now <3

xoxo,
Alysa

My Birth Story – Part Two

I just blinked and another month has gone by.  A month ago, I shared the first half of my birth story.  It’s been another month since Autumn was born, so here is the second half of that story.. including the actual birth!

When I left off, I was heading back to the hospital.  I had laboured at home from about 9am until about 5pm.  In the morning, I had been labouring in bed at home, as well as in the tub (which was super helpful).  After a while, my husband suggested that I get out of the bed, and I think that started to speed things up again.  Something that the nurse who did our prenatal said was getting into the bed was bad, and I didn’t think that applied to my bed at home.  It did though!  Being in the bed really slowed everything down, so once I got back up and started walking around, it started up again.

When we got back to the hospital, it seemed a lot busier than it had been when we had been there first thing in the morning.  I had to wait a minute before getting checked, and when they checked me… I was dilated 9cm.  Which was a huge difference from when I was 4cm that morning.  So, I was able to go into a room at last!!

I had to wait a little bit before we went to the room, but I did not lie down in the bed again.

We were led through some doors and down a hallway.  I vaguely remember the doors (people had to be buzzed in to keep everyone safe, which I really appreciated), but I do not remember the hallway.  When I left the hospital later, I marveled at how nice the hallway was.  I had no memory of it, even right away.

When we got into the room, my doula mentioned that I had said I wanted to try labouring in the tub, so they asked me if I still wanted it.  I said I did, so they filled it for me, but I didn’t end up using it.  I was too far along to have to leave the room again to get to the tub, and the hospital didn’t let you give birth in the tub.  Instead, I got on an exercise ball and bounced through the rest of my contractions until I started feeling like I needed to push.

It was on the exercise ball that I asked for the nitrous oxide (aka, the laughing gas).  I went into it kind of thinking that would be the only thing I would use, and I was glad that I was only able to use it.  I didn’t have it for very long, maybe 15 minutes or so, before I decided that I needed to start pushing.

I started pushing at about 7:30pm.  I remember asking how long people usually push for, because I had read stories about people pushing for like 3 minutes.  They said the average time was between an hour and a half and two hours.

There was a huge wall clock right in front of me as I pushed, and all I could do was stare at it the entire time.  Pushing hurt, which I was expecting, but I also felt like it was going on FOREVER.  I remember clearly that at 8:45, I stared at that clock and I thought to myself “I am having this baby by 9:00″

Autumn was born at 9:07pm!  And she was perfect <3

xoxo,
Alysa

 

 

I couldn’t help but wonder…

mama style

dress: Modcloth // socks: American Apparel

 

mama style

 

I’ve been watching a lot of Sex and the City lately.  And when I say “a lot of” I mean, I am basically finishing a season in a day (or or less).  It’s been so great, I love this show, but I’m noticing things that I didn’t notice before.  I’m noticing the clothing more.  Before it was just something that went without thinking.  I didn’t need to pay attention to the clothes because they were just fabulous.  But not all four of them dress fabulously!  Miranda, for example, has some pretty bad outfit choices.  I still feel more of a connection to what Charlotte wears, and her general personality.. but I can see myself wearing some of the things that Carrie wears.  For example, I love that she is still wearing the micro-mini’s.  I don’t know where I got the idea that I had to stop wearing mini-skirts just because I’m over 30 (probably What Not To Wear. Back off Stacey, I’m going to wear my minis!).  She looks fabulous in them, and so can I.

I have a few more of my Dressember photos to share (and there’s still time to donate if you want to, click here), and then I’ll be taking a dress/skirt BREAK!  It is SO nice to be able to wear pants again :)

Here’s to an awesome Pants-uary ;)

xoxo,
Alysa

New Year Joy

2015 joy

I’ve been pretty big on resolutions in the past.  2014 was all about more: more baking, more reading, more active.. something else too? I can’t remember.  That should tell you how long I actually followed those resolutions.  I think I gave myself way too many, and then burned out on them.  It happens.

2013 was about not buying new clothes, which worked really well for NEW clothes, but I did a lot of thrift store and second hand shopping instead.  Is that better? It’s hard to say.

2012, I don’t even think I made any! It was the year I got married though, so that was pretty great.  2011, I didn’t make a resolution, but instead focused on a word and what that word meant to me.  2011, for me, was fearless. I wanted to try new things, and not be scared to do things.  It was a great year, and I like that it was pretty limitless.  It wasn’t a specific list of ~things to do~ and stuff I needed to get done.

So, 2015 I’m going to be doing that again!  No specific list of stuff to do, but instead I will focus on a word and try to live that word as much as I can.

For me, 2015 will mean JOY.
Not that I didn’t live with joy in mind in 2014, it was a great year.  I just want to really focus on living with joy!  I’ve had a lot of great things happen in 2014, and I want to continue that joy into 2015.

What are your new years resolutions this year?

xoxo,
Alysa

Happy Day!

Hope you had a lovely Christmas! We had a very busy, very wonderful week.  It was so nice to be able to spend the time with our families.  It was also a little more fun with a little one, though she’s still in the sleep and eat all the time phase.  Next Christmas will be even more fun because Autumn will have a little bit more awareness as to the festivities!  We got absolutely spoiled, though, and I would say that baby’s first Christmas was pretty great.  We felt very loved indeed.

How was you Christmas?

Here are some other things making me happy this week as we head into the New Year!

Dressember is coming to an end and I can honestly say that I’m excited to wear pants!! I never thought that I would say that, but there you go.  It’ll be interesting to see which of my pants fit me now! I’m hoping for more than just my “boyfriend” jeans.  If you’d like to, you can still donate here!! And thank you so much if you do <3

Canada’s Luckiest Baby is back!! If you are expecting or have a baby 3 and under, you should enter! The prizes are unbelievable and I would love to win!!

This Dad, who illustrates the funny things his 3 year old daughter says. I can’t wait to hear the things that Autumn says when she’s a bit older.

Hope your week is lovely!

xoxo,
Alysa