4 things I learned in the first 4 months of motherhood

lessons from motherhood

1. The internet is both a friend and a foe.
Want to do something with your child you’re not sure about? Whatever it is, you’ll find information and articles on the internet about why it’s great to do that thing, AND you’ll find information on why it’s a terrible thing to do.  So you’ll either be justified in your actions, or be made to feel like a terrible mom for wanting to do it.  So search the internet with caution!

2. My childless friends seemed the most judgmental
It wasn’t necessarily specific comments, sometimes it was just looks from people.. but I definitely have felt pretty judged by a lot of my friends who don’t have children yet.  And I’m sure that I was exactly that way before I had kids, too.  This article says it best but “everything I knew about raising babies, I knew before I had to raise any”.  It’s so nice to be able to read my baby books and say “yes I’ll do that” and “no, I would never do that” and I feel like my friends without children have these ideas in their minds, too.  Then your baby gets here and you start singing a different tune.  IT’LL HAPPEN TO YOU!

3. It’s really hard, and really great
Breastfeeding is really hard.  It’s not easy like the books say.  But, I love doing it, and it’s so worth it.  Any change in a routine is hard, but it’s worth it when it will improve your child’s life in the long run.  Being a mom is HARD, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

4. It’s a lovely club to be in
Moms (generally) support each other.  At least in my experience.  I go to a breastfeeding support group, and I love being able to hang out with other moms who are in the same stage of life as me.  One time, I was at the mall and realized that my husband hadn’t reset the diaper bag (I thought he had so I didn’t check) and I didn’t have any clean diapers.  A mom in the family changing room said she would have given me a diaper if she had any that would have fit my daughter.  It is a nice club to be in :)

xoxo,
Alysa

oh joy!

Lnew mama style

dress: gift // socks: Le Chateau // cardigan: thrifted //

new mama style

 

There’s something about realizing what brings you joy and being able to do it.  Since it’s the beginning of a new month, I like to check in and reevaluate my new years resolution!  I didn’t have a specific resolution, but instead selected a word.  A word that I would focus on throughout the year that I could try to be about for the year.  My word this year is joy!  Thinking about joy, and thinking about the things that I enjoy doing, and things that really drive me and bring me life.  I love being able to visit with friends.  I’m a pretty sociable person, and so hanging out and chatting gives me life.

But, I can’t make money hanging out with friends and chatting over coffee (unless someone wants to give me a talk show?? That would be fun!)  Luckily, there are other things that give me life and bring me joy, and luckily, I just finished school to do one of those things.  My plan is to start my own event management business!  Now, I just need to wait until Autumn is a bit bigger to do it for real.  But I can’t wait, so in the meantime I’ll just be planning and throwing my own small scale events, for myself and for my friends.

What kinds of things are bringing you joy so far this year?

xoxo,
Alysa

 

Happy March!

There’s something about the beginning of March that I find really nice.  It means that spring is right around the corner!  I know that it’s cold now, and that it snowed yesterday (and potentially today), but March is spring to me.  It’s nice to be able to think about nicer weather and see it in the direct future.  January and February are always always cold, but March is like the start of spring.  I love it!

Here are some other things making me happy this week:

This list of 25 things new moms should know.  I really enjoyed reading that list, as a new mom :)

I’m OBSESSED with this performance:

I love it.

Have an excellent week!

xoxo,
Alysa

Books of 2015: February

February Reads

02. Choose Your Own Autobiography by Neil Patrick Harris
I really enjoyed this book. It was fun to read the story as NPH, I loved the concept of a choose your own adventure book when applied to an autobiography. As NPH, I was a young doctor on tv, hosted an award show, met the love of my life and started a family, hung out with Harold and Kumar, and met your mother.  I also got killed by piranhas, spoiler alert ;) I’m pretty sure I missed some stuff, but it was a good read!!

03. Yes Please by Amy Poehler
I LOVED this book! Her stories were funny and interesting to read, and I really liked hearing about behind the scenes stuff from SNL.  Plus, she had some pretty good advice, and as a new mama some of her mommy stories were really great to read.  All in all, this book had pretty much everything I want to read about right now.  Loved it!!

04. The Family Blessing by Rolf Garborg
This was a pretty interesting read.  It was basically about why to give your child a daily blessing.  I’m really excited to be able to do this with Autumn.  We were given this as a gift when she was born, and we’ve been trying to bless her nightly.  Even though she doesn’t know what we’re doing just yet, it’s nice to be able to share a blessing over her, even if it’s just for ourselves at the moment.  I’m excited to do this for years to come.

What have you been reading lately?

xoxo,
Alysa

red dress

new mama style

dress: gift // socks: F21 //

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Going into the beginning of March, I’m dreaming of warmer weather.  I’m excited to be able to go for walks outside, and taking my daughter to the park to play.  I’m excited to see how she’ll react to these things.  It’s been pretty cold lately, and all we’ve been able to do is stay home.  On days like that, it’s really easy to get dressed up!  When we don’t have to actually go outside, it gives us a good excuse to put on things that we wouldn’t want to wear outside when it’s as cold as it has been.

Hope you’re staying warmer where you are <3

xoxo,
Alysa

The Peony Project Instagram Takeover!

I’m so excited to be part of such an awesome group online.  The Peony Project has been a real blessing to me in terms of community and fellowship.  I love being able to have a group of women to chat to about God, blogging and anything else under the sun.  Today, I’ll be taking over the Peony Project instagram!  So check it out here!

xoxo,
Alysa

new mama problems

new mama problems

when your husband gets home and you’ve already changed the poopy diaper

when new sweatpants counts as a treat

when showering by yourself is a luxury and grocery shopping by yourself is a holiday

when your adorable little baby looks up at you and smiles… then spits up all over you

all the extra stuff you need to leave the house

when none of your shirts fit because your boobs are so big

buying all new clothes that work well with breastfeeding

when you think back on how you stayed up all night when you were younger, for no reason, and hating your past self for doing that

when you miss being able to have a hot cup of coffee

when you forget your coffee in the microwave, because you didn’t drink it fast enough, and then you find it the next day when you’re trying to put in today’s coffee that you didn’t drink fast enough

What other new mama problems have you experienced?

xoxo,
Alysa

animal print

new mama style

 

shirt: F21 // scarf: gift // jeans: Bluenotes

 

 

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How is February treating you?  We’ve been super busy over the last little while, though we’ve been having less appointments out, which is super nice.  Lately, I’ve been participating in a style challenge on Instagram! It’s called #StyleMeFeb!  It’s been a lot of fun, but it’s made me realize how much I’m missing from my closet.  This was for animal spots, which I figured that zebra stripes were close enough ;)  It has also been pretty challenging though.  There are so many days where all I want to do is wear sweatpants and leggings, and it’s hard to find things in my closet that will work well with breastfeeding.  Otherwise, it has actually been challenging, but also really fun!  Check out my Instagram @Alysalovely to follow along!

xoxo,
Alysa

Happy Louis Riel Day!

or Happy Valentine’s Day weekend!
Did you do anything fun for Valentine’s Day this weekend?  My husband and I went on a date without our daughter for the first time since she was born.  We left our daughter at my parents house and went for sushi.  It was awesome to be able to be out by ourselves.  Autumn slept the whole time she was there, too, which was slightly disappointing for my parents ;)

Louis Riel day is the best though.  My husband gets the day off of work, so we’re going to be eating waffles!  The best!

Here are some other things making me happy this week:

A mom who let her daughter style her for a week.  I can’t wait to do this with Autumn!

7 ways friendships change after having kids

This list ranking all the Not Ready For Prime Time Players from all 40 years of SNL. It’s pretty horrible and great at the same time.

Have a great week!

xoxo,
Alysa

 

Why we’re giving up TV for lent

Lent is starting next Wednesday, and we’ve been thinking about what we were going to give up for a little while.  Last year, we gave up caffeine, and I also gave up alcohol and pop.  Because I was secretly pregnant.  This year, we’re going to give up TV.  As a new mom, I watch a LOTT of TV.  I’m finding that it’s becoming too much TV.  So, here’s why we’re giving up TV for Lent:

First Thought: I should give up TV for Lent!
Second Thought: NOO!
Third Thought: Sigh.. that means I probably need to give up TV for Lent.

So there you go.  We’re giving up TV for Lent.

What are you giving up for Lent this year?

xoxo,
Alysa