Mom Like a Gilmore

I’ve been watching through Gilmore Girls lately, and I love the differences in parenting styles that the show portrays!  The differences and similarities between all the women of Gilmore Girls was especially interesting.  As a mom, I like to see what choices other moms make, and their thought process behind it.  So watching Gilmore Girls, which has a LOT of moms in it, was really fun!

I looked up a list of all the different types of parenting styles (with the official names) and determined which mom of Gilmore Girls mommed in which parenting style.  Which mom are you?

Mom like Lorelai
Positive Parenting/Spiritual Parenting
Lorelai Gilmore and her daughter, Rory, are best friends first, and mother/daughter second.  Lorelai is Rory’s confidant, sounding board and all around friend.  Lorelai sometimes will play the “mom card” when it’s necessary, but for the most part, she is Rory’s buddy.
Lorelai Gilmore follows positive parenting philosophy because she isn’t about strict rules and enforcing a specific list of things Rory can and cannot do.  She’s more interested in being there for her daughter and being a role model for her.  Lorelai wants Rory to be happy.
Lorelai Gilmore follows spiritual parenting philosophy because allows Rory to explore her own talents and interests.  Rory wanted to go to Harvard from a young age, she was interested in cotillion, and a myriad of things that she, herself, literally ran away from in her youth.  But she supported her in it, even if she didn’t totally agree.

Mom like Emily
Authoritarian Parenting/Narcissistic Parenting
Emily Gilmore is very into making rules, and big punishments when they are broken.  She is the ultimate authority of the household, and what she says, goes.  She rules over her household with an iron fist, and doesn’t allow for mistakes (you can especially see this in how many maids she goes through every season.)
Emily Gilmore is very into authoritarian parenting.  It’s her way or the highway, basically.  There’s no room for questions or revision.  It’s just the way that she is.  Her daughter rebels to this hard.  She sneaks around, and eventually runs away.
Emily Gilmore also shows characteristics of narcissistic parenting.  She sees her daughter as an extension of herself, so if her daughter screws up, it is on her.  It is an embarrassment for Emily when Lorelai does something wrong.

Mom like Mrs Kim
Authoritarian Parenting/Helicopter Parenting
Mrs Kim is a very interesting character.  She keeps Lane under her thumb and tries to control every aspect of her life, including setting her up with future doctors at 16 years old (when these boys are very far away from medical school).  Mrs Kim has a very specific idea for what she thinks Lane’s life should be like, and tries to make it that way by force.
Mrs Kim is an authoritarian parent because of all of that.  Lane has to keep her true self hidden because she doesn’t want to disappoint her mother.  Mrs Kim has very specific sets of rules and insists that Lane follows them.  There are no negotiations and Lane usually has to lie in order to do things that she actually likes.  Mrs Kim is very old school in this way.  She thinks that children should behave and not do a number of things that Lane ends up doing.
Mrs Kim could also be described as a helicopter parent.  She’s very involved with Lane’s school, and keeps a watchful eye over all of her extra-curriculars.  She’s very interested in helping Lane have a better life and wants to work with her to get it.

Mom like Sookie
Positive Parenting
I love Sookie St. James as a mom.  She treats her children like they are people and not just babies.  She supports them, and guides them, as opposed to making them do things and setting up rules.  It is because of this that Sookie follows the positive parenting philosophy.  She is raising her children by being a role model to them, and teaching them how to be grown ups.

Mom like Lane
Unconditional Parenting
We don’t see a lot of Lane as a mom, because her little ones are babies when the series ends.  But I have no doubt that she follows unconditional parenting philosophies.  She wants her children to have a different childhood than she has.  She wants to encourage them in their interests and help them to grow.  If that means going to church every Sunday, she will support that.  Ultimately, Lane follows unconditional parenting style because of how she believes that her baby shower is her last party, because she is prepared to do everything for her babies.  She puts a lot of herself aside for their well-being and that is fully unconditional parenting

Mom like Liz
Unresponsive Parenting – Jess
Positive Parenting/Unconditional Parenting – Doula
Liz Danes is an interesting character, too.  When we know Jess in season 3, she is fully absent.  She can’t handle him anymore and sends him to live with Luke.  She pushes away all parental responsibility and lays it on her brother.  I love Liz as a character, but she is kind of a flake.  She depends too much on men who are totally wrong for her, and that leads her down the wrong path.  I believe that she could have done better by Jess if TJ had gotten there earlier.  TJ, though kind of an annoying character, is incredibly good for Liz.  I think his presence helps her to be a better mom to Doula than she was for Jess.
Again, we only see Doula as a baby, but she seems to be a much better mama to her little daughter than she was to her son.  She’s got all the latest gadgets for having a baby and puts her all into raising that little girl (while making jewellry on the side).  We see a parent who sometimes needs a break (normal) but who keeps close watch on her daughter via monitor.  Liz Danes follows positive/unconditional parenting for her daughter.

Mom like Sherry
I hesitate to even label Sherry under a specific parenting style.  Sherry’s focus was her work, and she put that above her family … but it is also possible that Sherry suffered from Postpartum depression.  They never really dive too deep into the whys when Sherry left for France, just that she didn’t want to mom anymore.  But, none of her friends had babies yet, and she was in over her head.  A lot of things could have influenced her move, and not just her daughter.

What do you think? Do you agree with these parenting styles for each of these women? Which one are you most like?

xoxo,
Alysa

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Gilmore Girls Viewing Must Haves

Gilmore Girls Must Haves
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The new episodes of Gilmore Girls are going to be available on Netflix TOMORROW and I am SO EXCITED.  I have been waiting for this for 10 years, and several re-watches of this amazing show.  I have the DVDs, but I still watch on Netflix.  I am fully prepared to watch this as soon as it comes available, and I know that there are others who are like me who will be watching it then, too.

Here are a few things you must have when you watch the Gilmore Girls revival:

  1. Coffee Coffee Coffee
    How could you not?  This is practically a staple in the Gilmore house.  All the Gilmore Girls love coffee.  And drink lots and lots daily.  It would not be a Gilmore Girls party without coffee… or, as Lorelai orders it “coffee coffee coffee!”  That does not mean THREE coffees at once, it means bring me coffee fast!  Coffee.  And, if you’re going for the Emily Gilmore aesthetic, drink your coffee out of your china.
  2. Junk food, and lots of it
    When Gilmore Girls watch things, they grab a wide variety of junky food from Doose’s Market and Luke’s Diner.  I won’t be able to go there, but I can get a large amount of candy, cookies, pizza and burgers from around here.  It’ll almost be like watching it with the real Gilmore Girls.  Now, if only I could also have their metabolisms… 😉
  3. A buddy to watch with
    Bonus points if it’s someone you can talk really really fast with, or your mom.
  4. PJs
    Bonus points if they’re plaid, or have various pictures of Jackson in wrestling poses on it.  Alternatively, you could have your hair nicely brushed and you could be wearing lip gloss, making Paris Geller’s life seem really unfair.
  5. Books
    There’s definitely not going to be time to read said books, what with all the Gilmore Girls to watch.. but it’ll probably make you feel better knowing that they’re on hand anyway… just in case 😉

Hope you enjoy watching the revival! I know I will

xoxo,
Alysa

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What to Watch on Netflix to get into the Halloween Spirit

What to Watch to Get Into the Halloween Spirit

Halloween is coming up! And as someone who watches a lot of Netflix/tv, I have certain things that I enjoy watching around this time of year.  I don’t have ABC, so I can’t watch anything from the 13 Days of Halloween lineup… but I do have Netflix, and there are quite a few things on there to watch to help get pumped about halloween (get it?? PUMPkin? 😉 ) If you don’t have cable either, here is my 10 Days of Halloween lineup via Canadian Netflix:

01 // The Nightmare Before Christmas
I just watched this with my daughter the other day, and anytime I do anything even remotely related to Halloween, the song “This is Halloween” is stuck in my head.  It’s such a great story.  It’s got the creepy aspect of Halloween, and a little bit of Christmas, too 😉

02 // Ghostbusters
An old classic.  It’s the original version on Netflix, but you could totally watch the new one, too! Just… not on Netflix.  I especially love watching the old one for the sweet 1984 CGI.  And Dan Akroyd.  He’s awesome.

03 // Sleepy Hollow
One of the most classic Halloween stories ever told! Ichabod Crane is timeless. And this one features Johnny Depp and Christina Ricci, so what could be better?

04 // Goosebumps
Us 90’s kids will remember getting freaked out by this show late at night.  I specifically remember one time watching this when my parents weren’t home and all three of us were pretty scared after.  It’s fun as an adult though.

05 // The Sixth Sense
Another classic.  And if you haven’t seen it, it has a classic M. Night Shyamalan twist at the end 😉

06 // Are You Afraid of the Dark?
“Submitted for the approval of the midnight society…” This is another huge classic for us 90s kids, especially us Canadian ones.  Andrew and I actually had an Are You Afraid of the Dark Halloween party a few years ago.  We watched a bunch of our fave episodes on Netflix and it was a lot of fun. There were some great classics, but there are quite a few epsidoes.. so if you’re looking for the scariest ones, here is a list of the top 10 scary epsiodes! Plus, watch for cameos from Ryan Gosling, Elisha Cuthbert, Jay Baruchel, Hayden Christensen, and Jewel Staite (& what do they all have in common? All Canadian).

07 // Scooby Doo
Not as classic, but still pretty fun.  Especially since (spoiler alert) most of the baddies end up being regular bad guys in costume.  Perfect for Halloween!

08 // Buffy the Vampire Slayer
What could be better for Halloween than a bad-ass VAMPIRE SLAYER?? There are even some fun Halloween specific episodes in it.  My personal fave Buffy Halloween episode is the one where they all become their costumes.  And if you haven’t seen any of it, seriously, just watch it all! It’s SO good.

09 // Rear Window
To me, Hitchcock is practically essential watching for Halloween.  It’s got a lot of suspense, it’s creepy, perfect vibes for a Halloween party.  You could even have a Hitchcock themed Halloween party.. dang.. I wish I had thought of that earlier 😉

10 // Supernatural
Another great TV show dedicated to ghosts and goblins.  Plus, hotties.  What more could you ask for? 😉

What are your favourite Halloween-esque movies to watch?

xoxo,
Alysa

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Musings from a Parent whose kid is OBSESSED with Beauty and the Beast

Things You'll Notice When You Watch Beauty and the Beast with your kids

Like a lot of people, my child is currently obsessed with the movie Beauty and the Beast.  It’s probably her favourite movie, besides Frozen.  But I’m talking obsessed.  We’ve had a number of rainy/cold days in the last little while.. and when that happens, we watch TV.  And so I ask, “Autumn, what would you like to watch?” and her answer lately has always been “BEAST” haha  So I’ve watched it pretty much daily for the last little while.  And here are things that I think of when I watch it:

01 // How old was the Beast when he was cursed?
So, at the beginning when they are setting up the story, the narrator tells us that the enchanted rose will last until his 21st year.  Later on, Lumiere says that “10 years we’ve been rusting” in the song Be My Guest.  Since the rose is very close to being done, this means that when the Beast became the Beast, he was about 10 or 11 years old.  If that is true, where the heck are his parents when this creepy old lady comes to the door?  Why is the prince the one to answer it? Where are all these servants at that time?? So many questions.

02 // Chip was definitely born as a teacup
If it’s been 10 years since the castle got cursed, that means that Chip was born as a teacup.  He’s clearly younger than 10, especially since at the end they show his mother carrying him.  So who’s the daddy then? Is there a kettle they don’t show? Was it Lumiere?  Hard to say.  But it makes sense as to why Chip asks if he still has to sleep in the cupboard at the end.  THAT IS ALL HE KNOWS!

03 // I really want to see what the wardrobe looks like as a human!!
In the song Human Again, we see that the wardrobe wants to be able to wear makeup and dresses (and not be so huge).. which makes me really curious as to what she looks like as a human! My husband pointed out a woman in the final scene that COULD be the wardrobe, but you don’t see her face.

04 // That scene where Gaston goes to marry Belle
In this scene, Gaston is chasing Belle around the room.. and she’s trying to put furniture space between them.  He is such a creep.

05 // How some of the enchanted things have eyes/faces/names, and some don’t
Lumiere, Cogsworth, Mrs Potts.. etc.. they all have faces and names.  Yet, there are some enchanted objects who don’t have faces or names.  It is my theory that the ones that had names were people.. and the ones that didn’t were actually inanimate objects to begin with.  My husband suggested that perhaps there could have been some kind of competition between the ones with names and the nameless ones… because for the ones without names, once the enchantment is over, they’re just regular objects again.. so you’d think maybe they didn’t want the enchantment to be lifted.  Something to think about 😉

There you go.  There’s my over-analysis of Beauty and the Beast 😉 What have you noticed about it in rewatching it as an adult?

xoxo,
Alysa

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Why I Love Jane the Virgin

Why I Love Jane the Virgin

It’s that time of year again! The time when all your favourite shows start coming back, and all your future favourite shows are starting.  I am here to tell you today about one of my current favourite shows.  As someone who generally only watches her television shows on Netflix, this is one show that I will actually keep up with.  Jane the Virgin is so good, but here’s why I love it:

01 // The DRAMA!
First and formost, Jane the Virgin is essentially a telenovela.  The drama is the biggest part of the show.  If you are unfamiliar with the premise, a woman who is saving herself for marriage gets accidentally artifically inseminated by her OB/GYN.  CRAY. And there’s so much more than that!  Long lost fathers, evil twin half-sisters, love, hate.  It’s all good.

02 // The relationship she has with her mother and grandmother
Jane has an amazing relationship with her family, and it’s hugely apparent that her family is the most important thing to her.  It’s refreshing to see a young character who is actively getting advice from her mom/grandma.

03 // It shows some of the realities of being a new mom
Since she was artifgically inseminated, Jane is pregnant for all of season one, and then is a new mama for season two.  Jane the Virgin shows interesting/fun things about pregnancy and postpartum.  I could really relate to it when I first started watching when I was pregnant with my first, and now as I’m a mama of two.  It’s totally relatable that way.

04 // The Love Triangle
Michael or Raphael? (#teamraphael) There’s beautiful romantic scenes with both.  HOW CAN SHE CHOOSE??

05 // Jane
Jane is such an amazing character.  She’s thrown a lot of crazy dramatic situations, and she handles them amazingly.  She’s got to be one of my favourite characters of all time.  She’s smart, strong, funny, just so much fun to watch.

Jane the Virgin Season 3 premieres next Monday!! You could totally watch the first two seasons before the release.  It’s totally that compelling 😉

xoxo,
Alysa

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5 Shows to Watch on Netflix with your Kids

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I often hear parents lamenting about the types of shows their children are into.  Either it’s too much, or the character is too annoying, or whatever it is.  Children’s shows are definitely a big topic for parents.  If your kids must watch tv, it should at least be something semi-educational or, let’s face it, fun for you to watch!  Here are my current favourites to watch with my daughter (and they don’t make me roll my eyes or want to leave the room):

01 // The Magic School Bus
“Please let this be a normal field trip!” “With the Frizz? NO WAY!”
Let’s be real.  This show is enjoyable for me to watch because of the nostalgia.  I used to love watching this show as a kid, and I’m so happy to be able to watch it with my daughter now.  And she loves it, too! She’s constantly asking for “bus”.  It’s so fun to watch with her.

02 // Puffin Rock
This show is so adorable.  It’s about a little family of puffins, and the narrator is Chris O’Dodd (from Bridesmaids/The I.T. Crowd).  It’s a very cute show, and very visually appealing.

03 // Beat Bugs
This is a kids show that uses Beatles songs to tell the stories and teach lessons.  It’s a very sweet show, and I love being able to sing along with the songs I already know.  Plus, it’s really fun to see which of the more questionable (for kids) lyrics they won’t actually sing and will instead hum for.  Plus, one of the episodes is called Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds, and that’s pretty rad.

04 // Barbie Life In The Dreamhouse
This show is hilarious! I enjoy it because it doesn’t take itself seriously.  It makes fun of Barbie for all her careers, and for how long her and Ken have been dating.  It’s seriously fun to watch.  I’ll give you an example.  In one episode the premise is that Barbie is learning how to drive.  Then Skipper goes “Wait, weren’t you a Nascar driver?” Yes. haha it’s too funny

05 // My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic
This is a really cute show, and fun to watch! Plus, Friendship really is magic 😉

What are your favourite shows to watch with your kids?

xoxo,
Alysa

 

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Best Snapchat Stickers for Mamas

The Best Snapchat Stickers for Mamas

I love Snapchat.  I’ve been using it a lot in the last little while.  It’s fun to share little moments of our day in quick photos or videos.  I also LOVE to use the stickers and filters.  In my opinion, that’s the best part about this medium. It’s fun to kick up your snaps a little bit with stickers.  And as a mom, sometimes I feel like I need to add a little sarcastic or hilarious sticker!

Here are my favourite stickers for mamas:

For when your kids are finally asleep in bed and you get to spend time with your spouse!

When you’re not sure what your child is doing something weird, or throwing a fit, or getting into mischief

When you’re finally allowed that precious me-time… like at the grocery store :p

When your child is being adorable and precious <3

When your child is doing something they shouldn’t.. like taking all of the plastic containers out of the cupboard and leaving them in the living room…

What are your favourite snapchat stickers?

xoxo,
Alysa

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Why you should be watching Degrassi on Netflix NOW

Degrassi Next Class
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I love Degrassi.  I grew up watching reruns of Degrassi Jr High and Degrassi High on CBC when I was in high school.  And so, when a new generation of the show started, I was thrilled. The Next Class is the newest rendition of Degrassi, and I was so excited to see some of my faves are back.  Miles, and Zoe, in particular.  As well as Lola! She was more of a side character in the previous series, so it’s nice for her to have more of a character in this one.  Annoyed by all the Maya stuff, but c’est la vie! If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you should totally check out the show! It’s on Netflix, y’all! Here are the other reasons why you should immediately go watch Degrassi Next Class on Netflix NOW:

  1. Super relevant to what teens and young adults are dealing with
    It’s got dating struggles, feminism, masterbation and drug use. And so, so much more! It’s very relatable for teens and young adults, and I think it might even be something parents could watch with their teens and young adults. It’s got the right amount of drama to keep it interesting and fun, too.
  2. Super cute fashion
    I’m pretty sure past series were costumed exclusively by Le Chateau, I am not sure if it still is.  Either way, the outfits and accessories they have are SO CUTE. Check them out 😉
  3. Funny Degrassi universe versions of social media
    Facerange, and Hastygram are just a few of the real life social media platforms they create their own versions of. It’s pretty fun to see what they’ll call things.
  4. Not many episodes yet
    As of right now, I can only access 10 episodes from the first season.  I finished it in about a day and a half. It’s so easy to go through them all so fast!!
  5. The next season is coming … soon
    Season 2 was allegedly released July 22.  However, I don’t seem to have access to it yet.  So hopefully I gain access to it soon!! Season one had kind of a pretty big cliffhanger, and I want to know what happens.

If you’ve already watched it, how did you like it? Share in the comments!

xoxo,
Alysa

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my new favourite social networks

my new favourite social networks

You may have noticed this, but I am pretty big into social media.  I like using Twitter, Tumblr, Pinterest, and Facebook, and anytime something new comes out, I feel compelled to download it and try it out.  It’s especially nice that it’s something I’m able to do on the phone that I have.  I’ve recently discovered (and re-discovered) a couple of really great social media platforms I’d like to share with you here! Maybe you’ll be interested in trying them out as well 😉

PEACH
I am really enjoying Peach.  It’s a lot of fun!  If I had to describe it by comparing it to another social media platform, I would say that it’s similar to twitter, except that you can use more than 140 characters, and there are gifs!! As many gifs as your heart desires!!  There are a number of other fun features you can do on there as well.
You can find Peach on the App store as well as on Google Play 🙂
My username is alysalovely

SNAPCHAT
I am re-discovering snapchat and LOVING it!  I am having so much fun with adding to my story throughout the day, as well as seeing what other people are doing in their day to day lives.  I really like it because it’s so in the moment, there’s not really tons of time to make the image super perfect so it’s more casual and real than some of my other social media obsessions.  But I love this!  I also love the fact that I can send pictures and videos of our day to my husband while he’s at work.  He might not see them till he gets home, but it’s nice to be able to share a little bit of our day while he’s gone.
I believe this can also be found in both the app store and on Google Play
My username is alysalovely 😉

 

 INSTAGRAM
Instagram is still my first love.  I use it multiple times per day, and I love seeing what other people are posting on there.
It is also in both the app store and on Google Play
Shocker! My username is alysalovely 😉

What are your favourite social media platforms?

xoxo,
Alysa

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Why To Watch Fuller House

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  1. To see how the house changed
    As someone who JUST watched through all of Full House, I have noticed so many small things that are different about the house.  For example, Nicki and Alex’s room switched from being a pretty big space that fit two cribs in it, to being the closet.  That’s because the room they are now saying was Nicki and Alex’s room WAS the closet.  A nice walk in closet, but still! It was a closet, not a bedroom for twins.
    Other changes include in decor, but that was a given. It would be weird if the house were decorated the exact same!  Though, it seems like the room that was DJ and Stephanie’s, and then Stephanie and Michelle’s is now smaller than it used to be, somehow. It’s interesting the little things you might notice 😉
  2. THE CHEESE
    Oh dear lord is this cheesy.  But the original was cheesy, so it’s to be expected!  It’s fun to see just how cheesy they go. How they call out the Olsen Twins for not coming back, and how they incorporate some real world stuff in there as well.  It’s great. Cheesy, but great.
  3. To see how the girls have changed
    The girls have done a lot of growing up!  See where their careers and lives have taken them. See the comments they make about Michelle’s fashion career.  See how different they all look now that they’re all grown up!
  4. The new modern story-lines
    It’s so much fun to watch the Tanners try to navigate through a lot of life’s new issues since the introduction of major technology!  Cell phones play a pretty great part in this now, and there are a few other more modern story-lines to see.  Plus, Stephanie is known as DJ Tanner (which, btw, was my DJ name.. so to that I say “HOW RUDE”) and there are story-lines about that as well, which is kind of fun.  Plus, how many of you wanted to see DJ and Stephanie going to a club? It was something I never even knew I wanted. It was great!
  5. Nostalgia
    Let’s be real. The main reason for watching this show is nostalgia.  Watching these thirteen 22-23 minute episodes is absolutely worth it for the nostalgia value.  You get to see your old fave characters all grown up, you get to see new faces, and there are cameos by a lot of great people!  All in all, it’s a lot of fun and worth the 6 1/2 hours it might take to watch through the whole first season.

What did you enjoy about Fuller House?

xoxo,
Alysa

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