Mom Like a Gilmore

I’ve been watching through Gilmore Girls lately, and I love the differences in parenting styles that the show portrays!  The differences and similarities between all the women of Gilmore Girls was especially interesting.  As a mom, I like to see what choices other moms make, and their thought process behind it.  So watching Gilmore Girls, which has a LOT of moms in it, was really fun!

I looked up a list of all the different types of parenting styles (with the official names) and determined which mom of Gilmore Girls mommed in which parenting style.  Which mom are you?

Mom like Lorelai
Positive Parenting/Spiritual Parenting
Lorelai Gilmore and her daughter, Rory, are best friends first, and mother/daughter second.  Lorelai is Rory’s confidant, sounding board and all around friend.  Lorelai sometimes will play the “mom card” when it’s necessary, but for the most part, she is Rory’s buddy.
Lorelai Gilmore follows positive parenting philosophy because she isn’t about strict rules and enforcing a specific list of things Rory can and cannot do.  She’s more interested in being there for her daughter and being a role model for her.  Lorelai wants Rory to be happy.
Lorelai Gilmore follows spiritual parenting philosophy because allows Rory to explore her own talents and interests.  Rory wanted to go to Harvard from a young age, she was interested in cotillion, and a myriad of things that she, herself, literally ran away from in her youth.  But she supported her in it, even if she didn’t totally agree.

Mom like Emily
Authoritarian Parenting/Narcissistic Parenting
Emily Gilmore is very into making rules, and big punishments when they are broken.  She is the ultimate authority of the household, and what she says, goes.  She rules over her household with an iron fist, and doesn’t allow for mistakes (you can especially see this in how many maids she goes through every season.)
Emily Gilmore is very into authoritarian parenting.  It’s her way or the highway, basically.  There’s no room for questions or revision.  It’s just the way that she is.  Her daughter rebels to this hard.  She sneaks around, and eventually runs away.
Emily Gilmore also shows characteristics of narcissistic parenting.  She sees her daughter as an extension of herself, so if her daughter screws up, it is on her.  It is an embarrassment for Emily when Lorelai does something wrong.

Mom like Mrs Kim
Authoritarian Parenting/Helicopter Parenting
Mrs Kim is a very interesting character.  She keeps Lane under her thumb and tries to control every aspect of her life, including setting her up with future doctors at 16 years old (when these boys are very far away from medical school).  Mrs Kim has a very specific idea for what she thinks Lane’s life should be like, and tries to make it that way by force.
Mrs Kim is an authoritarian parent because of all of that.  Lane has to keep her true self hidden because she doesn’t want to disappoint her mother.  Mrs Kim has very specific sets of rules and insists that Lane follows them.  There are no negotiations and Lane usually has to lie in order to do things that she actually likes.  Mrs Kim is very old school in this way.  She thinks that children should behave and not do a number of things that Lane ends up doing.
Mrs Kim could also be described as a helicopter parent.  She’s very involved with Lane’s school, and keeps a watchful eye over all of her extra-curriculars.  She’s very interested in helping Lane have a better life and wants to work with her to get it.

Mom like Sookie
Positive Parenting
I love Sookie St. James as a mom.  She treats her children like they are people and not just babies.  She supports them, and guides them, as opposed to making them do things and setting up rules.  It is because of this that Sookie follows the positive parenting philosophy.  She is raising her children by being a role model to them, and teaching them how to be grown ups.

Mom like Lane
Unconditional Parenting
We don’t see a lot of Lane as a mom, because her little ones are babies when the series ends.  But I have no doubt that she follows unconditional parenting philosophies.  She wants her children to have a different childhood than she has.  She wants to encourage them in their interests and help them to grow.  If that means going to church every Sunday, she will support that.  Ultimately, Lane follows unconditional parenting style because of how she believes that her baby shower is her last party, because she is prepared to do everything for her babies.  She puts a lot of herself aside for their well-being and that is fully unconditional parenting

Mom like Liz
Unresponsive Parenting – Jess
Positive Parenting/Unconditional Parenting – Doula
Liz Danes is an interesting character, too.  When we know Jess in season 3, she is fully absent.  She can’t handle him anymore and sends him to live with Luke.  She pushes away all parental responsibility and lays it on her brother.  I love Liz as a character, but she is kind of a flake.  She depends too much on men who are totally wrong for her, and that leads her down the wrong path.  I believe that she could have done better by Jess if TJ had gotten there earlier.  TJ, though kind of an annoying character, is incredibly good for Liz.  I think his presence helps her to be a better mom to Doula than she was for Jess.
Again, we only see Doula as a baby, but she seems to be a much better mama to her little daughter than she was to her son.  She’s got all the latest gadgets for having a baby and puts her all into raising that little girl (while making jewellry on the side).  We see a parent who sometimes needs a break (normal) but who keeps close watch on her daughter via monitor.  Liz Danes follows positive/unconditional parenting for her daughter.

Mom like Sherry
I hesitate to even label Sherry under a specific parenting style.  Sherry’s focus was her work, and she put that above her family … but it is also possible that Sherry suffered from Postpartum depression.  They never really dive too deep into the whys when Sherry left for France, just that she didn’t want to mom anymore.  But, none of her friends had babies yet, and she was in over her head.  A lot of things could have influenced her move, and not just her daughter.

What do you think? Do you agree with these parenting styles for each of these women? Which one are you most like?

xoxo,
Alysa

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It’s a FALL World After All: May Market Sneak Peek!

It’s almost time for the September edition of May Market!! I am SO excited for all the awesome things we’ll have this month.  Our theme, It’s a FALL world after all, includes everything to do with fall.  Halloween, Thanksgiving, and ALL THE PUMPKIN & LEAVES!  It’ll be so great.

Join the group here – MAY MARKET – to see what we’ll have.  We’ll all be loading up our albums on Wednesday, and then the market is on September 1st and 2nd!  Hope to see you there <3

xoxo,
Alysa

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Cherry Coke

shirt: thrifted // necklace: Mama Gems // skirt: thrifted // shoes: Toms // sunglasses: Joe Fresh // floral crown: my SIL made it for me

Autumn wanted to play, too!
Her outfit: shirt: Old Navy // skirt: hand-me-down // shoes: Lanie’s Closet

bracelets: 1/4: Pandora // 3/4: Thrifted

I never thought I would be a crop top kind of gal, but here we are!  I’ve had this top in my drawer for a really long time before I braved it, and then I put it with this skirt and loved it, so I’ve worn it a bunch of times since then.

Life has been a little fast paced and exciting lately!  I’ve participated in a couple of Farmer’s Markets this summer, and woah! That was a LOT of work haha.  I don’t sell food, so I don’t think I did as well as the people who did sell food, but it was a good experience.  I’ve learned that I don’t want to do farmer’s markets anymore.  Both times I was in direct sunlight all day and came home with a sunburn and mild heat stroke.  Oops! Oh well, live and learn 😉

Otherwise, I’ve been so busy dreaming up ideas for new projects and new things to offer in May Market! Our next sale is coming up on September 1 and 2, and I’m SO excited to share the things we’ll have in it!  It’s all about fall, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and everything pumpkins!  I am so in love with everything so far.

What’s new in your life?

xoxo,
Alysa

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Unicorn Love: for Mama

In my next installment of amazing things on etsy that have to do with unicorns, here are things for women/adults/mamas!  I specify for mamas because I am a mama, but these items would be awesome for just about anyone.  I’m so excited to share the next few items with you, because they are majestic AF and amazingly magical unicorn things for adults.

01 // Unicorn Mom Glass
Unicorn Mom: A mother who’s not perfect, enjoys alcohol, has a sense of humor and couldn’t care less what you think.  See also: beautiful boss, zero f#&ks given.  Adorable glass that clearly needs to have some kind of fun cocktail in it.  Would be great for a mama’s birthday, or Mother’s Day 😉

02 // Unicorn Bracelet
Gorgeous gemstone beaded bracelet, inspired by unicorns.  This bracelet is more subtly unicorn themed, but would be the perfect gift for your friend who loves unicorns.  It’s so pretty and I can’t stop looking at it!

03 // Ceramic I Love Unicorns Pin
This vintage pin is simply adorable, and would make any backpack or denim jacket (or wherever else you put pins 😉 ) I love the vintage aspect of it, too! It makes it seem way more unique and one of kind.

04 // Majestic AF Unicorn Tank
If anyone dares question how majestic you are, you should definitely get this shirt to show them that you are majestic AF!! So perfect for anyone tbh. I would love to wear this, personally.

05 // Unicorn Silhouette Earrings
Oh my goodness, these are ADORABLE!! I love unicorn silhouettes, and I love the way these ones mix wood with a magical purple.  I love them so much, if only my children would let me wear earrings 😉

06 // Unicorn Tote Bag
I LOVE this bag.  It looks amazingly large and spacious, and I could fit SO many things in this bag.  As a mama, I find that my bag is filled with so much stuff, and I know that a bag like this would actually contain everything I need on a regular basis.

07 // Unicorn Notebook Insert
This would be so handy, for any planner-fans out there!  It’s so fun to add a little kick of something magical to a day planner, and this would be so perfect for that.  The art is beautiful, and it would give your day planner a little something special.

08 // Unicorn Macaron Planner Clip
This is SO adorable.  I want it for my day planner tbh, bc I would absolutely love using it.  I love the workmanship here, it would spunk up any dayplanner.

Which of these is your favourite?

xoxo,
Alysa

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Unicorn Love: To Relax With

I don’t know if you knew this about me, but I absolutely love unicorns.  I’m sitting at my desk, and to my left is a golden unicorn lamp.  And to my right there is a little unicorn picture on the wall.  Unicorns are awesome, and I love celebrating them.

I sell on Etsy, and I buy on Etsy, and I’ve been looking around and there is a LOT of unicorn stuff on Etsy these days.  Which is so awesome for unicorn lovers like me, right?  So this is post one of a series about alll the unicorns you can find on Etsy!

01 // Unicorn Hooded Blanket
This blanket looks SO cozy!  Perfect for a cool fall day, when you just want to look at a candle and/or read a book by a fireplace.  Or binge watch your fave Netflix show.  Plus, why would you do any of those things as a normal person when you can be a unicorn while doing them? Way more exciting 😉

02 // Unicorn Soap with Rubber Toy Inside
I love taking baths, and this would be a lovely addition to any bath or shower.  It looks like it would be a lot of fun for a kid, too.  See how many baths they have to take before they can get the toy out!

03 // Unicorn Eye Mask
After your bath, it’s time to take a nap, and what better to help you nap during the day than an eye mask?  This one looks so soft, plus, you can’t go wrong with gold unicorns!

04 // Sculpted Unicorn Bath Bomb
This one is so beautiful, I would probably just display it by the tub if I’m being honest.  It is a bath bomb though, which would make for a really nice bath.  I’m obsessed with bath bombs haha but I don’t think I could use this one.  It’s just so pretty.

05 // Watercolour Unicorn Mug
What could be more relaxing than looking at this gorgeous watercolour unicorn?  Picture it: hot tea, that unicorn blanket and whatever form of entertainment you enjoy.  Sounds like a perfect afternoon to me!

06// Unicorn Bath Bomb
This unicorn bath bomb looks SO sweet, doesn’t it?  It’s guaranteed to add a little bit of magic to any bath <3

How many of you want to relax with a unicorn now?  I know I do!  It’s just hard to decide where to start 😉

Stay tuned next week, for the second post in the Unicorn Love series.

xoxo,
Alysa

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quite rightly

dress: thrifted // headband: made by me (Alysalovely Littles) // necklace: Mama Gems

I’m so ready for (more) summer weather!  I took these pictures a few weeks ago, right before we headed off to the spray pad with our friends to frolic in the cold water there because it was SO. HOT. out.  The last week has been all rain, basically all the time.  Sad.

Hi friends! I’ve been kind of MIA lately, but it’s been for such a great reason, I promise!  I’ve been preparing for several farmers markets that I am participating in this summer and I’m SO excited about them!  That, in addition to our monthly May Market, of course! 🙂 That will be this Friday/Saturday and it’s going to be awesome!! Check it out at the link above to join the group!

Otherwise, we’ve been doing a lot of hanging out.  Going to spray pads, to the park, it’s been a great summer so far!

What summery things have you been up to lately?

xoxo,
Alysa

 

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little flowers

dress: thrifted // necklace: Finity Handmade on etsy // glasses: Glasseslit.com

Toddler outfit:
Dress: thrifted // necklace: Finity Handmade on etsy

It’s funny. Slightly more than a year ago, when I had only one child, I would take my outfit pictures when she was napping. Now I have two, and so I barely take outfit pictures ever… but when I get a moment to do so, I have an adorable little one crashing the photos!  I love it.  She wanted to pose the same way I was, it was a lot of fun, and she is an adorable addition to my photos.

I want to talk about this dress for a moment.  I love how classic 90’s it is.  And I especially love the buttons up the back.  Except… they come undone SO easy.  How embarrassing is it when you have just walked across the room and sat down, only to receive a text from your husband that your dress isn’t done up?  Pretty embarrassing!!  But I love the dress so how to prevent wardrobe malfunctions?  Shorts underneath!  I have a lot of bike shorts and they’re perfect for something like this because you can’t tell I’m wearing them, and no one will see my underwear… even if the buttons aren’t holding up.

Autumn picked her own outfit today, too!  She really wanted to wear a dress and was so excited when she saw this one. And it’s so cute, I couldn’t say no!  Plus, you can’t go wrong with matching necklaces, right? 😉

Hope your week is amazing <3

xoxo,
Alysa

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Autumn at 2.5 <3

Earlier this month, my little girl turned 2 and a half!! Aka 30 months old haha.  I’m not one to keep track of months specifically, but it would have been hard to add a little point to 2.5 years haha 😉

Autumn has been growing so much over the last half a year.  She has a LOT to say.  She knows so many words, and says them so sweetly.  Some of them she has the cutest pronunciations.  She still loves reading so much, and always wants to hear stories.

This month she watched her new favourite movie, Moana!  She’s also started potty training (which I will probably write about in more detail soon).

She’s learning so much and I love watching her grow <3

xoxo,
Alysa

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Aiden at 11 months

I don’t know if this is a real thing, but the last month of Aiden’s first year has flown by so fast that I didn’t even get a chance to share his 11 months update!  And it’s funny that this month has gone by so quickly, because this month last year went by SO FREAKING SLOWLY.  A side effect of having a two weeks late baby 😉  Now, he’s almost one!! It’s surreal.

Anyway! Some of the things he was doing at 11 months:

Aiden has been consistently sleeping through the night.  He gets up at about 7:30 every morning, and most days he even goes to sleep on his own.  For the most part, I nurse him to sleep, but sometimes he wants to go to sleep by himself.

He’s getting to be such a sweetheart.  He’s been saying so many words.  He said “duck”, “car” and “toy” this month. He likes playing with his sister, and reading books.  He started his first swimming lessons, and is unsure about it.  He’s not as upset about it as his sister was, but he’s still not 100% sure.

He’s been growing so much, and we love him so much <3  In about a week, I’ll share his 12 month update 😉

xoxo,
Alysa

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Currently Creating: What I’ve Been Making Lately

It’s been pretty quiet around here lately, and I’ve missed writing here.  I’ve just been on a roll with making bonnets for my etsy shop!  I’ve been doing a lot of summer bonnets, and I just love how they turned out, so I’d like to share with you some pictures of my most recent creations:

I’ve also started making things for Aiden’s first birthday!! I’ll share those after the party 😉

xoxo,
Alysa

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