40 Days of Kindness: Do Not Engage



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The fact that I don’t have my 8:30 am classes on Monday and Wednesday of this week seem to have thrown my internal clock way off!  I somehow managed to sleep through my alarm again today,which didn’t make for a very good start of the day.  I had big plans to go to school and get so much work done, but it didn’t happen.  I did go to my second class, though!! I’m not the worst student!

I haven’t really shared all of my ~random acts~ lately.  I think that a part of me feels like when I do these things, that I shouldn’t be rushing home to tell everybody about it and receive some kind of gold star for helping people.  I don’t want recognition, I just want to help.  I don’t usually start the day knowing what, exactly, I’m going to do for it, either.  Today was no different.  I woke up (albeit a little bit later than I wanted to) and I did what I usually do, which was check all my social media and read my fave blogs.  Somewhere in there, I read something that was really upsetting, ill-informed and hurtful.  So, I told them that.  I attempted at the good old-fashioned “call out”.  And, in true call out style, an argument started.  It honestly didn’t get very far before I bailed.  It’s so easy to get angry, to name-call, to say more hurtful things back to people when they are being rude or hateful.  It’s not so easy to still look at that person with kindness and to move on.  My random act of kindness for the day was just that.  I moved on.  I am not going to go back into that conversation, I don’t want to know what kind of “last word” they might have gotten out of it, or whether or not they grabbed some buddies to help them out.

There’s a quotation that I’ve seen a few times on pinterest that goes along the lines of “before you speak, ask yourself: is it true, is it necessary, and is it kind?”  I believe that in this case I could only answer one of those questions with a yes.  I think that the most important question out of the three (at least for me, right now) is the last one, is it kind?  My aim for these 40 days is to be kind.  How am I doing that when I’m starting arguments with random people I don’t know?


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  1. I understand what you are saying, however is clear that your sharing your acts of kindness is not for the recognition (which you deserve by the way!) but it is to inspire others to do the same. I personally find your ideas great! Life goes so fast and it’s easy to “think” about being kind:it’s much harder to actually do something, so your experience is a great way to give other people the chance to be inspired into action. Thank you for sharing!

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